June is the month we celebrate fathers.
Families gather to celebrate dad with meals, gifts, and sometimes, the simple gift of letting him have his own day — watch the U.S. Open, go fishing, or maybe just take a nap. I’ve always thought being a father looked more fun than being a mother. I’ve seen the job of a mother. That’s a lot of work, and frankly, I don’t think I’m cut out for it.
But today I want to share something with my children — something I would never say to your face, though I probably should. Fathers don’t always say much. We keep a lot inside; that’s just what many men do. So, today I’m speaking for all the dads out there, telling our children what we often can’t say out loud.
You were my “why” — why I went to work, worked long days and early hours, coached youth teams, and prayed every night for your happiness. You were my motivation and my inspiration. I lived my life trying to give you a better one.
I never wanted a perfect child — just a happy one. I didn’t want you to get caught up in what the world wanted you to be. I wanted you to find your own way and forge your own path. I tried to guide you, though I know sometimes you thought I was controlling. I wasn’t trying to plan your life; I was trying to save you from my mistakes.
I was learning right along with you. I tried to be the best dad I could, but there wasn’t an instruction manual when you were born. I did my best. I made mistakes. There are things I wish I could do over, but the past is behind me now. Just know that everything I did, I did with the best of intentions — and with love in my heart.
I’ve always loved you. From the moment I held you in my arms, I knew I would love you forever. Yes, there were times when I was frustrated. I yelled. I disciplined you. But always know it was done with love. When you were sad, my heart broke. Any pain you endured, I would have gladly taken on myself to spare you. Your victories were mine, and your losses hurt me more than I ever let on.
Please understand: the love of a father knows no bounds.
So, if you’re wondering what to give your dad this Father’s Day, start simple: a call, a visit, a few minutes where you’re fully present. Ask him about the stories he doesn’t tell often, and listen a little longer than you normally would. Tell him you remember the rides, the talks, the lessons, the way he showed up — even when he was tired. Tell him you’re okay. And if the words feel hard, borrow mine: thank you. I love you. I’m grateful for you. Fathers may not always be good at saying what’s in our hearts, but we carry our children with us every day.
Happy Father’s Day.
